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My very first newsletter for my clients, way back in 1991, was called ‘Harmony Matters.’
For me harmony matters. It’s the foundation for being the best version of myself and living my best life.
Like you I sometimes feel surrounded by disharmony a noun simply meaning lack of harmony or agreement.
I find the many synonyms for disharmony revealing. They include discord, friction, strife, conflict, hostility, acrimony, bad blood, bad feeling, enmity, dissension, disagreement, feuding, quarrelling, disunity, division, divisiveness, informal falling-out, disaccord, discordance.
Think politics, religion and most of the institutions the conservatives are desperately trying to hang onto because they are the source of their power.
I picture disharmony as two separate circles in one is either and the other or.
In his great book ‘Metaskills’ Marty Neumeier says “Reject the tyranny of or and embrace the genius of and. Leave the sides behind, Look for a third alternative based on common-ground instead of compromise.”
You only need to think of BREXIT for a second to realise the futility of compromise.
Co-promise on the other hand fills us with the joy of infinite possibilities which of course is the land of quantum physics. In a word it’s harmony!
Co-promise is the final sparkenation in my book ‘Remarkable Workplaces’.
I picture harmony as two overlapping circles with the words you in one circle and me in the other and the words ours in the middle.
We need to sustain shared-view in seven areas of significance. View the seven short videos and complete the diagnostic here.
In ‘Metaskills’ Marty Neumeier says “Politics, goes the conventional wisdom, is the art of compromise. Unfortunately, this is true. With dichotomous decisions, there are only three possible outcomes: win-lose, lose-win, or compromise. None of these is optimal, and all can lead to gridlock.”
Disharmony is the no man’s land between what is and what can be.
See this tension, confusion, doubt, danger, conflict, difficulty or disagreement as your great opportunity.
What are the lessons of all the above for your workplace?
Who will you become?
What will you do next?
PS from my Changing What’s Normal book 11 laws of life/work harmony.
Director - Ian Berry
Since 1991 I have partnered with more than 1000 leaders in over 40 countries. My passion and expertise are about self-leadership, leading for others, and leading for change in the context of seven areas and the glue that binds them together in unbreakable ways. Find out more at my website www.ianberry.biz I have become known as the connoisseur of candour. Being candid is the secret sauce in the unique recipe we'll create together to reach or reclaim, and sustain your remarkability which I believe is life's most powerful purpose. Simply by nature of our birth we are all remarkable. Then life happens and we all need inspiring, reminding, and sometimes persuading to sustain our remarkablity. This is the core of my work. At my website you'll see there's gifts for you and a number of complimentary events. These are made available to you to receive immediately value from me and also to assess if we can work together.Ian Berry